to my surprise ~ i am really looking forward to my Vlog this week ~ when I thought of sharing 4 lessons i have learned from others i didn't realize how interconnected the lessons would be to this blog project.
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this is the week I begin the 'hour there ~ hour back' twice- a-week school commitment. having just completed my J-Term studies, Violent & Dysfunctional Families ~ i consider Human Intimacy & Marriage Therapy a reward!! that said .. hoping this season of my life, when my brain is being pulled like silly puddy, won't cause the project to suffer :) thank goodness we are still flying by the seat of our pants here.
my friend ~ my wonderful friend ~ she is excellent with her boundaries. what a huge lesson, so instead i'd like to streamline the discussion to boundaries when pursuing a goal. i love that my friend has goals - heck! i have goals, but what my friend has taught me to do is put a box around my goals.
what! a box? that's no fun you say ~ how restrictive ~
at first glance, but this is a goal we are talking about, something we don't yet have and have every intention of gaining . . .
what tells us we are meeting our goals? time. ahh ~ time ~ the truth teller ~ ring a bell? but time goes on and on and on, doesn't it. ever thought about writing a letter to your child every month? and before you know it, a year has past & you have to simply celebrate the year??
when thinking of a box ~ i am thinking assessment guidelines. there are several directions to go; specifically north, south, east, west - or - any combination. at times we will need a nice wide box & other times we will need a box that resembles the size of something a bracelet may fit ~ perhaps one long & slender (no distractions).
using my box, if i was discerning my potential as a writer i might write for a month with the intention i will develop my skill on character development. i will create a new person each day - and - in that day i will dream up his or her likes, dislikes, hair color and flair.
at the end of the month ~ how close have i come to developing my goal of being a writer? if i was able to stick with the characters i would say - go forth - develop more goals towards writing short stories or novels.. if i got stumped on the 6th day ~ perhaps poetry is more my game.. and really, it could be that i am actually a paper crafter - ha!!
without the box i could go on thinking i was destined to be a writer, never fulfilling my dreams ~ stuck. mismatched and feeling worse and worse about myself and what i thought was my life's work. on the other hand, if i use my starts and finishes i would be well on my way to my best fit. make sense?
one step after another & after every step we are more clear of our abilites.
in honor of my friend ~ the one that teaches me to move forward until the next assessment ~ i will be evaluating this blog project each month.. no telling really what the end result with be ~ but whatever it is ~ it will be intentional & growing along side the community that comes along..
to the point ~ i hope . . . trying to keep my Monday commitment in the mist of an anxious heart ~ please ~ let me find a close parking space so i don't have to be scared walking in the dark ;)